Have you seen that episode of How I Met Your Mother where Ted keeps inviting his random dates to important friend events and Lilly gets really upset. She has him play that "Name that Bitch" game with her scrapbooks and he can't remember any of the girls' names.
I am heading down to NC today for the NKOTBSB concert and R's second birthday. I couldn't be more excited. I know that I don't live near my friend, J, and I don't see her and her family everyday so her son won't have actual memories of me until he's much older. Even then it will be like the memories I have of Dad's friend, Bonnie. I know she came over a few times and was there for family parties, but I have no concept of her as a person outside of these rare events. I don't know what her sense of humor was like or what kind of friendship she had with Dad. I know what I've heard, but I don't actually know.
What I do like is that one day R will look back at his parents' pictures and see me in the wedding party, at his shower, and (hopefully) all of his birthdays. That even if I am not an actual character in his life/world, he will know that his family was important to me and that his mom had friends that loved her. There are certainly people in my parents' pictures that appear more than a few times and I wonder who they are. I hope that I have a little more presence in his life than that, though. Things do change, however, and we can never tell what the future will bring.
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